When it comes to how we use language in service to intuitive living, loving, growing and healing, there are 2 things that can restrict the flow at every turn.
Thing #1 is Expectation and Thing #2 is Criticism.
While these energies can be kept in check, none of us are immune to them. They’re sneaky little buggers that long to keep us feeling like we’re in charge of things, nourishing the illusion of control in our consciousness much to the dismay of our inner peace. And while they mean well, they will never get us where we want to go if we desire to live in harmony with our intuitive spirit.
A part of you may be thinking, “But isn’t it just human to have expectations and criticisms? They can’t be THAT big of a problem...”
Well sure, if we choose to stay focused in the ordinary world of conflict and drama that most of us grew up in, they’re a natural part of the deal. In that world, you can bank on how you expect life to go and then criticize how things turn out when they don’t meet your expectations. And once the disappointment clears, the cycle repeats itself (over and over and over again…). Does that sound familiar? Does it make you crazy? I get it, believe me. And I’m delighted to tell you there’s a way out if you’re up to the task.
To shift the tide, you must be willing to examine the way you use your words (both internally and externally) and consciously use them to empower instead of dis-empower.
For example, many years ago I confronted a life-long battle with my weight and related health challenges by taking a good hard look at the way I was talking about it. I was always trying to figure out if I was destined to never enjoy being in my body or if anyone outside of myself could hand me an answer. I also hopefully expected a magic pill to come along, or the perfect diet that would take off the pounds. As you can imagine, those things never came. And what did I do? I criticized myself day and night for not being able to “get it right”, for feeling terrible in my own skin, for not feeling beautiful, for never being enough. I criticized restaurants for serving too much food, the culture for encouraging skinny bodies as much as it encouraged overeating, and my own metabolism for being “broken” and unable to keep up.
Needless to say, it was not until I released expectation for that magic solution and started to ask my body what it needed from me that I found a way forward. I dove into my intuitive development path which opened new doors where before there were none. As I started making choices through what felt right for me instead of how the rest of the world did things, I was led to solutions that were just right for me. It was at that time in my life when I began to integrate 2 very important concepts that would shift that vicious cycle of expectation and criticism so that I could grow, heal and release limitations whenever they arose.
The first concept is: Love where you are NOW.
This goes for any area in which you desire to heal or change. Don’t expect yourself to magically shift into a better version of yourself, or handle it the way others would. Embrace your health crisis, your extra weight, your grief, loneliness confusion, and even that job you hate. Ask your spirit what lesson or message can be mined from the situation. Wisdom is everywhere and in everything, and only you can confirm what the message is because intuition is a language spoken between your spirit and your heart. Love is the bridge to who you really are and what you really know.
The second concept is: You have the power to CHOOSE.
Criticism of what-is often stems from a belief that an unwanted thing is unchangeable. We humans vent frustration by complaining and criticizing and while that can provide a temporary sense of relief, the unwanted thing only gains traction and strength when we focus upon it with such force. When life is approached with the knowledge that we are the result of our choices, we can then recognize that we can choose our way to a new reality. It may take some practice and dedication, but it really is that simple.
Another big challenge these lessons presented was how to make good choices (and trust myself to do so). I never had a lot of strong desires or opinions growing up and had a fairly humble upbringing filled with a lot of loss and grief. I had learned over the years not to want much and to accept the hand I was dealt. So, how was I to choose out of this body and life I had found myself so unhappy in?
For me, intuition became everything. I could plan away my life but without consulting my intuition first, my plans felt empty and pointless. Even when dreaming of my ideal job, mate, home and lifestyle… I found consulting my intuitive feelers to be much more gratifying than shooting for anyone else’s version of success. As a result of this shift, I have lived in a much more empowered reality full of synchronicity and expansion ever since.
And while I wish I could tell you my old friends Expectation and Criticism never stop by for a visit, that would be a lie. The difference between now and then however is, when they do – I take it as a sign that I need to become more present to the subject at hand.
I ask myself, “How can I listen to this situation better, with love? How can I choose something different that will spin this pattern in a positive direction”. And then, instead of trying to control life from a place of powerlessness, I’m able to make an intuitive choice to transform what-is into something that can grow, heal and expand in the flow.
Try clearing your slate this week by releasing old expectant and critical words that are no longer working for you as we prepare to contemplate the importance of gratitude and spiritual re-framing in the coming weeks.
How can you LOVE where you are now so you can CHOOSE something better?
With Peace, Love and Wisdom
COMING NEXT WEEK:
STEP #3 IN THE PROCESS OF LETTING GO
Release Resentment and Amplify Gratitude
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