Release resentment and amplify gratitude...
This week, I'm so grateful to share that I recently joined homes with my sweetheart!
We’d been talking about it for a while, and everything aligned just right, at just the right time. Not only are we now both super happy to be able to smooch and snuggle whenever we want, our 3 cat “kids” are already getting along great (mostly, lol)!
And funny enough, as I enjoy this new phase of love and family in my life, I find myself in the same neighborhood I lived in when I dreamt it up over a decade ago.
Yep, literally right down the street.
As I explore this familiar place with new eyes, I recall far too many memories of loneliness, dating stress and fear from those years. Back then, I wondered if I was just “supposed” to stay alone. So many others had what I wanted and I couldn’t seem to “get it right.”
Surely, either there was something wrong with me or I’d been dealt a very limited hand by the universe.
Despite the loving voice of my intuition telling me to be patient and focus on my spirituality, my human self resented having to stay single while it starved for that ideal relationship that might never come.
Along the way, I realized that as long as this negativity dominated my energy about what I wanted, I would just keep drawing in the same patterns of lack.
Over and over... and OVER again
Eventually, I was done.
I began to practice consciously pointing my thoughts towards gratitude for the present moment, and everything started to sparkle more. My friendships strengthened, my self-care practice expanded, family relationships flourished, my body healed, my emotions became more resilient and my intuition sharpened. Even my dating life got better, even if it wasn’t quite the time to meet “the one”.
There was so much time to explore who I was as a spiritual being, which in turn would show me what I really wanted out of life.
I learned to be grateful for that time and space, exactly as it was.
And then... the magical mystery of a happy life began to unfold.
When we begin to practice looking at everything we resent or perceive as “unwanted” as the perfect stepping stone to where we long to be, reality changes before our very eyes.
Yes, we can still kick and scream in moments when things get frustrating. That is the human way after all. BUT… when we also keep that in mind, everything in life can be shifted into a positive gift instead of a negative challenge, even when times are tough.
So, what have you been kicking and/or screaming about lately?
What has you feeling resentful instead of grateful?
Is it your love life, job, family, finances, social life, spiritual life or health?
Look closely, and you may be able to see your burden as a gift that is actually guiding you towards what your spirit really wants for you.
Ask yourself one or more of the following questions to re-frame your struggle…
1. IF THIS SITUATION IS GIVING ME WHAT I DON’T WANT, HOW MIGHT IT BE SHOWING ME WHAT I DO WANT?
This one’s good for love and relationships. Single and plagued with nightmare dates or none at all? Maybe you’re learning to say “no” to what you don’t want instead of accepting anything less than that. Coupled and unhappy? Maybe you want to shift the present dynamics and let love grow and then again, maybe you know deep down that your partner is no longer right for you. Time to get really honest with yourself about what you want and acknowledge with gratitude that the road to getting there may not be easy, but it will be worth it.
2. IF I STICK WITH THIS SITUATION FOR A WHILE, WILL IT HELP OR HINDER MY ABILITY TO REACH FOR WHAT I WANT?
This one’s for that J-O-B that’s not ideal, but is funding your ability to quit and start something that makes your spirit sing in the foreseeable future. The same soul-sucking J-O-B when you have that long awaited cushion in the bank? It may instead be holding you back from making a significant move out of fear of the unknown. Depending on which one fits, it’s either time to muster your patience and/or your courage. You may have to stick it out for the long term in support of bigger goals or make the leap to set things in motion, but either way… acknowledge with gratitude that you’re on your way to something better.
3. AM I WAITING FOR MY CIRCUMSTANCES TO CHANGE SO THAT I CAN CHANGE?
This one works for any and all situations that foster resentment. If you’re waiting for external circumstances to shift in just the right way so that you can feel better or make an important change, you’ll feel like a dog chasing its tail for as long as that goes on. Attracting circumstances that resonate with your spirit is, first and foremost, an inside job. As long as you feel stuck in unworkable situations, you will be. Imagine now that the way in which you experience your reality has everything to do with how you choose to look at it. Thoughts frame our experience and we have the ability to become conscious of what we are thinking so that we can keep thoughts that are working and replace those that don’t with those that do. Acknowledge with gratitude that you have the power to choose your thoughts about what-is!
And as always, I recommend choosing intuitive thoughts over the logical ones when it comes to all of this hocus-pocus, create-your-life stuff.
Logic wants immediate results and works on cause and effect, and intuition sees the big picture beyond the measurable data.
Take a few deep breaths now, place your hand on your heart and ask,
“What do I need to know now about my path, for the highest and best of all concerned.”
Pull an oracle card or two, if you have them, or just let your guides speak to you through meditation, synchronicity and signs.
It may take a moment, it may take days. But the answers will come if you ask and listen gently for their arrival. Remember, intuition is called “that still, small voice within”. It won’t compete with our kicking and screaming, but it will offer solutions if we’re open to them.
Gratitude for the present moment is healing because it calms us.
When we’re calm we can hear that still, small voice SO much better.
Here’s to a great day of thanks this Thursday, I hope you celebrate at least one or two sweet stepping stones that are present in your life right now.
In Peace, Wisdom and love,
Check back for next week’s post:
Step #4 in the Process of Letting Go:
Reflect on the space created by what has been released.
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